Let’s not sugarcoat it.
There are days, maybe even weeks, where you feel flat. Heavy. Like your worth has slipped through the cracks and disappeared without notice. You lie in bed or sit in silence and think:
“What’s the point?”
You’re not lazy. You’re not broken. You’re not a failure.
You’re human. And right now, your tank is empty.
So how do you get up anyway and get going, when you feel like nothing?
You don’t start with a miracle. You start with a flicker.
Let’s light it.
First: Name It Without Shame
You’re feeling low. Maybe anxious. Maybe hopeless.
And while some people will say “just push through”, we’re not doing that ‘fake it ’til you break it’ dance.
Here’s what we will do instead:
Take a breath.
Acknowledge it without judgement.
“I feel off. I feel small. But I’m still here. And that counts.”
Because naming the weight, helps lift it. Not all the way. But enough to take the first step.
Step 1: Go Micro, Not Mega
When your brain is foggy and your self worth is in hiding, don’t chase a 10 step comeback plan.
Chase the next right micro move.
- Sit up in bed.
- Drink some water.
- Put your feet on the floor.
- Open a window.
- Breathe deeper.
- Text someone a “Hey.”
Small acts done with care can rebuild your sense of control. You don’t need to fix your whole life today.
You just need to move gently toward aliveness.
Step 2: Change the Channel in Your Head
The mind gets loud when you’re low.
It whispers lies:
“You’re lazy.”
“You’re behind.”
“You’re not worth much.”
Let’s call BS on that, right now.
Your brain isn’t always telling you the truth.
It’s telling you what it thinks will keep you safe, often by shrinking you down.
So let’s change the channel.
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- Play a podcast that lifts you.
- Hit a playlist that stirs your soul.
- Watch someone’s story who came through the other side.
Borrow someone else’s belief until you feel your own spark again.
Step 3: Do Something Before You Feel Ready
Here’s the harsh and beautiful truth:
Sometimes motivation doesn’t come before the action.
It comes because of it.
You don’t feel like showering? Shower anyway.
You don’t feel like stepping outside? Step anyway.
You don’t feel like you’re enough? Act like someone who might be.
This is not about pretending.
This is about momentum, and momentum doesn’t care how you feel. It just builds.
Step 4: Write It Out (Even the Ugly Bits)
You don’t need to be a writer. You just need to be honest.
Grab your phone notes or a bit of scrap paper and write:
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- What am I feeling right now?
- What do I wish someone would say to me?
- What would I say to a friend feeling like this?
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Sometimes the truth on paper feels kinder than the noise in your head.
Sometimes the page is the only safe place to be real.
That’s okay. Let it hold you.
Step 5: Let Someone In (Even Just a Little)
You don’t have to spill everything.
You don’t need to announce to the world that you’re struggling.
But could you send one message?
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- “I feel off today.”
- “Can we chat later?”
- “I don’t want advice, just presence.”
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Pain multiplies in silence.
But it begins to loosen the second it’s witnessed.
Let someone show up for you, even if it’s just a voice note or a meme that says “same.”
Step 6: Challenge the Lie That You’re Worth Nothing
Let’s get brutally honest again:
You don’t feel worthy.
But your feelings aren’t facts.
Your worth is not up for debate.
You are not a mistake.
You are not falling behind.
You are not defined by how productive you are, or how many things you tick off, or how loud your voice is.
Your worth is baked in.
Not because of what you’ve done, but because you’re here.
Still breathing. Still trying. Still you.
And that? That’s powerful.
Step 7: Choose One Power Move for the Day
When you’re low, your goal isn’t to conquer the world.
Your goal is to make one power move. Just one.
- Clean one corner of your room
- Go for a 10 minute walk
- Write a kind sentence to yourself
- Make something with your hands
- Eat something nourishing
- Send your future self a note
- Power moves rebuild self-trust.
And self trust is where resilience lives.
And If You’re Still Not Okay?
That’s okay too.
Let’s not romanticise resilience as “getting it all together.”
Sometimes being resilient is just not giving up on yourself, even when your belief is at 1%.
Sometimes it’s just saying:
“I’m not okay today. But I’m not out.”
You don’t have to bounce back.
You just have to not give up on the possibility that you will bounce, when the time is right.A Few Things to Remember When You Feel Worthless
- You’ve survived 100% of your lowest days.
- You matter to people you probably don’t even realise.
- Your worth is not connected to your energy levels.
- You are allowed to rest.
- You don’t need to be amazing to be enough.
- Your presence, as you are, is already a gift.
Q&A: Real Talk
Q: I feel like I bring nothing to the table. What now?
A: You are the table. You don’t need to prove your value with output. You bring energy, story, presence, experience, and care. That’s enough. It always was.Q: What if I try and still feel low?
A: That’s normal. There is no magic button. Some days you fight harder than others. But every try, even if it feels like a fail, builds muscle. You’re growing, even in the dark.Q: How do I stop comparing myself to everyone else?
A: You’re comparing your behind the scenes to someone’s highlight reel. Stay in your lane. Your story isn’t late, it’s just unfolding differently. And different isn’t wrong.Q: What’s the fastest way to feel even 1% better?
A: Move your body. Move your space. Move your mind. (One tiny action in any of those three will create motion, and motion creates life.)Final Words (For Now)
Feeling low doesn’t mean you’re broken.
Feeling like nothing doesn’t mean you are nothing.
And sitting in the mess for a while? That’s not weakness. That’s being real.
But when you’re ready, even just a bit, there’s a world still waiting to meet you.
A life still waiting to be lived.
And the you that shows up in your lowest moment?
That’s the strongest version of you there is.Oi Mooshy says: It’s your life. And you’re still living it.
Even when it’s hard. Even when you don’t feel it.
You’re doing more than you know.
Keep going.
Keep rising.
One move at a time.