The goal with this post is to help you hear only the positive. Let’s begin:
Let’s be honest right from the start:
We’ve all got a full committee living rent free in our heads.
There’s the dreamer, the doubter, the one rehearsing Oscar worthy arguments in the shower, the one quietly narrating every failure since Year 9 PE class, and sometimes, just sometimes, there’s a voice that sounds like truth. A voice that is Solid. Grounded. Yours.
The problem?
They all sound like you.
But not all of them are for you.
So how the heck are you supposed to know which voice is the real you?
The voice worth following?
And how do you tell it apart from the one just trying to sabotage your Tuesday?
First Things First: You’re Not Mad, You’re Just Human
Before we dive in, let’s clear something up:
Having a bunch of conflicting thoughts, running commentary, or internal back-and-forths doesn’t mean you’re broken.
It means you’re alive.
It means your brain is doing its thing, processing, protecting, problem-solving.
But here’s the kicker:
Your brain is also deeply conditioned. It stores every time someone said you weren’t enough, every time you failed publicly, every time you made an ‘Richard’ of yourself at the Christmas party. And it brings those moments out like an uninvited DJ spinning the wrong track at the wrong time.
Some voices in your head aren’t truth. They’re trauma echoes.
So Which Voice Is the RIGHT One?
The right voice doesn’t always sound loud.
It doesn’t always sound confident.
Sometimes it’s the whisper that says, “Try again” after the louder one screamed, “Told you so.”
Here’s how to spot the right voice:
1. It nudges, it doesn’t bully.
The right voice is firm but fair.
It’s the one that tells you to keep going because you believe in what you’re building, not because you’re scared of looking like a failure.
Wrong voice:
“You’re pathetic. You always mess this up. Why even bother?”
Right voice:
“Okay, that didn’t go how you planned. Breathe. Let’s figure out the next step.”
One shames you.
One shapes you.
2. It sounds like your inner best friend, not your worst critic.
Think of your best mate, the one who tells you the truth; but would also fight a bear for you.
That’s the tone your right voice uses.
Not enabling, not patronising, but anchored in care.
Wrong voice:
“You’re too old, too late, too much.”
Right voice:
“You’ve lived. You’ve learned. That’s your edge. Not your shame.”
3. It makes you feel expansive, not restricted.
When you listen to the right voice, something inside relaxes – even if you’re still scared.
You feel like you can breathe a bit deeper. Stand a bit taller.
The wrong voice? Feels like tight shoes on a long walk. Rubbing you raw. Making you shrink.
Here’s a Trick: Label the Voices
Let’s name a few of the most common ones. Once you label them, you can laugh at them, challenge them, or dismiss them entirely.
The Inner Critic
Loud. Judgmental. Stuck in 2003.
Tells you you’re too fat, too old, too irrelevant, too late.
Reality: It’s trying to protect you from embarrassment, but it’s using shame as a weapon.
The Anxious Mouse
Panics at everything.
“What if they laugh?” “What if no one buys it?” “What if this ruins your life?”
Reality: Just your nervous system being dramatic. Not based on fact.
The Imposter CEO
Pretends to be logical.
Tells you you’re not qualified, not ready, not worthy.
Reality: It feeds off comparison culture and ignores actual experience.
The Authentic Rebel (aka, The Right Voice)
Grounded. Honest. Brave.
It’s the one that says, “This might be messy, but it matters.”
Reality: It’s your gut instinct. Your truth. Your Mooshy.
How to Turn the Volume Down on the Wrong Ones and Hear Only The Positive
Now that you can spot the wrong voices, here’s how to handle them:
1. Don’t argue with them, observe them.
Picture them like dodgy salesmen. You don’t need to engage, you just need to know you’re being sold crap.
“Thanks for your input, Inner Critic, but I’m going a different direction today.”
2. Write it down.
Grab a journal (Oi Mooshy’s got one for you) and write the voices out. Literally.
Column A: What one voice is saying.
Column B: What you actually believe.
Seeing it on paper separates the noise from the knowing.
3. Ask yourself: “Would I say this to someone I love?”
If the answer is no… guess what?
It’s not your right voice.
Build a Stronger Internal Voice Toolkit
Here’s how to strengthen your right voice over time, so it becomes your go-to.
Practice Radical Honesty (with Kindness)
Instead of:
“I’m so lazy.”
Say:
“I’m tired. I’ve had a rough few days. But I’m still here, and that’s something.”
Surround Yourself With Energy That Matches Your Truth
Who are you following?
Who are you listening to?
If all you see are hyper productive gym bots and high achieving TikTok teens, your voice will start mimicking theirs. And not in a good way.
Curate your feed. Curate your real life. Get around people who sound like your right voice on a good day.
Wear It
Yeah. Literally.
That’s why I created merch like “JUST RIGHT” and “OWN SPEED.”
Sometimes, your external needs to remind your internal who’s actually running the show.
The Ultimate Filter Question:
When you’re stuck between voices, ask this:
“Which voice makes me feel more aligned with who I want to become?”
Not which one makes you feel safer.
Not which one sounds smarter.
Which one brings you home to yourself?
That’s the one.
Every time.
Final Thoughts From the Mooshy Mind
You’re not meant to follow every thought you think.
You’re not meant to obey every shout in your skull.
Some voices in your head are just echoes of fear in a disguise.
Others? Are whispers of your future calling you forward.
So, listen carefully, listen kindly.
And when you hear that voice, the quiet one that says, “You’ve got more to give. Keep going. This matters.”
That’s not your ego. That’s not your anxiety.
That’s you.
The real you.
The Mooshy you.
No filters. No edits. Just… you.
For a little more reading on this and how to help choose the right voice… and practice positive self talk, read this article here
You got this.
Now go remind your head who’s really in charge.